“The Hand That Strikes Also Blocks”

Bruce Lee It strikes

“The best defense is a good offense.”
“The only real defense is active defense”
“The hand which strikes also blocks.”

What are these words of wisdom saying? We defend to attack. A real fight would not be exciting to watch on T.V. or in film. Why? The fight would be over within a matter of seconds. Martial arts in the movies where two people fight for four or five minutes is ridiculous. In real life, we want to destroy our opponent as quick as possible. If we only defend, our adversary will likely continue to attack us until we can no longer defend. If we are carelessly offensive, we leave ourselves open to attack, unless we are just that damn good. However, a strong defense should leave room to counter-attack. Or even a strong offense will leave our adversary preoccupied with defending themselves giving us the upper hand. In either case, offense is the name of the game.

My observation has shown me that society teaches people to be passive aggressive towards others. I can’t stand passive aggressive people. They just pisses me off.  Now, there is a time and place for passive aggressiveness. I think it’s called being “diplomatic?” But I digress.

When you are being attacked, a defensive position is not always a good one. As stated above, being on the defensive leaves you preoccupied reacting to others. If you are preoccupied, you can not focus on your plan [of attack]. Sometimes you just have to be aggressive! Defense takes energy too! One can only take so much punishment before they give out. Think of any encounter with lawyers. They get paid to attack and you have to pay to defend yourself. That doesn’t add up! How long are you going to be a punching bag?

Everything being discussed not only applies to situations physical in nature, but in every other aspect. When dealing with lawyers, courts, cops, businesses, relationships, etc. The principles don’t change, only the manner in which the tactics take form.

Combat strategies

For what we’re talking about, there are three (3) forms of combat not including the combinations thereof:

  • Passive
  • Passive Aggressive
  • Aggressive

pas·sive [pas-iv] adj
1. not reacting visibly to something that might be expected to produce manifestations of an emotion or feeling.
2. not participating readily or actively; inactive
3. not involving visible reaction or active participation

Passiveness is really a non-combative strategy. By definition, passive people just let things happen, though they may wish for something else. Bottom line is that they themselves aren’t going to do anything to make things happen actively.

pas·sive-ag·gres·sive [pas-iv-uh-gres-iv] adj
denoting or pertaining to a personality type or behavior marked by the expression of negative emotions in passive, indirect ways, as through manipulation or noncooperation

Passive Aggressiveness is an indirect form of attacking akin to flanking (attacking from a side). It is the go-to option for many people. Certain cultures have mastered this skill. What looks to be passiveness may be passive aggressiveness in disguise.

ag·gres·sive [uh-gres-iv] adj
1. characterized by or tending toward unprovoked offensives, attacks, invasions, or the like; militantly forward or menacing
2. making an all-out effort to win or succeed; competitive
3. vigorously energetic, especially in the use of initiative and forcefulness

Aggression is the name of the game for some people. They are out for blood and you are in their cross-hairs. They are going to attack straight on and you better be ready. There are many forms of aggression but the point is that there will be no doubt that you’re under attack.

Counter strategies

A “counter” implies that one has been attacked already.

count·er [koun-ter] verb (used without object)
15. to make a counter or opposing move.
16. to give a blow while receiving or parrying one, as in boxing.

With this, as I always tell people, read The Art Of War by Sun Tzu. Even if you don’t plan on using the tactics or strategies, it’s good to know what is being used against you…because war tactics will be used. But I digress.

As I studied and looked up the strategies, I realized something. From a Life Business standpoint, when countering either the same strategy applies: steadfastness!

stead·fast [sted-fast, -fahst, -fuh st] adj
1. fixed in direction; steadily directed: a steadfast gaze.
2. firm in purpose, resolution, faith, attachment, etc., as a person: a steadfast friend.
3. unwavering, as resolution, faith, adherence, etc.

There are small variations of steadfastness with each counter strategy. Let me explain:

Passive Aggressive Counter

With passive aggressive tactics, they will never attack you directly. If it’s a relationship, ignore their attempts to provoke you. If you react to them, they’re winning. If you attack them, you’ll look bad and feed into their game. It takes control and discipline to counter this tactic. If possible, get rid of this person/obstacle. Just avoid it. It’s not worth the stress. This counter usually pisses off the practitioner of this tactic. Think back to old shows/films like Inspector Gadget, Columbo, Naked Gun, Inspector Clouseau from the Pink Panther, etc. These characters were clueless [seemingly ignored] the attempts at their life or attempts to throw them of the trail of the bad guy [passive aggressive tactics]. When done correctly, your adversary will be livid!

Aggressive Counter

Reflect and/or parry.

When I say reflect, I don’t mean with aggression. Reflect their actions to them as in, show them  you see through the front of aggression, you see them. Some people are merely trying to intimidate you. Take debt collectors for example. They are extremely aggressive at times yet they can’t do much of anything.

This brings me to the second counter: Get aggressive right back. At times, aggression is just a front and if you allow it, they will continue. Test their aggression to see if it’s real. You can tell what people fear by the way they try and intimidate you.

Then you have parrying.

par·ry [par-ee] par·ried, par·ry·ing, noun, plural par·ries.
verb (used with object)
1. to ward off (a thrust, stroke, weapon, etc.), as in fencing; avert.
2. to turn aside; evade or dodge: to parry an embarrassing question.
verb (used without object)
3. to parry a thrust, blow, etc.

Sometimes you can completely sidestep certain actions, especially if you know it’s coming. How each tactic is executed will be determined by the situation’s environment.

Bull Fighter

Conclusion

“Igitur qui desiderat pacem, praeparet bellum.” That’s latin for “If you want peace, prepare for war.” If you choose to stick with this idea of “peace” and remaining passive, don’t complain about what has, is being or will be done to you. Being passive is a contradiction to being the authority in your life. If you don’t want to fight…comply! If you want people to “go away” and you think paperwork alone will accomplish that, good luck. I’m not saying you always have to attack, just don’t always take the defensive position because it’s not very effective overall. An active defense or all out onslaught can be superior in handling your business. Ultimately you need to stand your ground…like a boss!

Bruce Lee kickin' Ass

All definitions from http://dictionary.reference.com/

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10 Responses to ““The Hand That Strikes Also Blocks””

  1. Heather Sirotak | February 14, 2013 at 13:27 #

    I thoroughly enjoyed the Red Ice Interview, which was shared on my FB page. My husband Will & I fought foreclosure/eviction against JP Morgan Chase Bank & wound up becoming activists with a Union funded organization, called “We Are Oregon”. In the end, I’m not sure that helped our personal cause, if fact it may have hurt our chances of staying in the home. To make a long story short, after months of representing ourselves in court Pro Se, our counter suit got summarily dismissed by a judge’s signature. So we were denied our day in court, to demonstrate all the legal irregularities in the transfer of title etc. The eviction when it came was EPIC! There were up to 40 agents involved, from City of Portland, Multnomah Co. sheriff’s & federal deputies. It was a para military swat exercise, which involved wire tapping & assault rifles, as if I were armed & dangerous. I’m a 58 yr old grandmother, with cancer & No Criminal Record. Yet, I was surrounded, brutally traumatized & humiliated, forced out of my home, onto the street, in my pajamas, without any warning, getting served the eviction order as the sheriff broke down my door, on Nov. 6th 2012. Will is depicted in the Dill Pickle Press Poster, called “DON’T MOVE OUT” @ foreclosure Resistance in Portland. We’ve been included in documentaries & have appeared on several television stations, network & local cable.

    • 1stTrustee | February 14, 2013 at 13:36 #

      Wow! Got any links to the footage or articles? The courts will do things like that if you don’t know how to force their hand. I always say, once they kick you out…go back in (after they all leave of course) 😀 You definitely have a story to share! There are ways to go back and attack the matter and hammer the banks hard. Just pot and spring your surprise attack!

  2. Manuel | February 12, 2013 at 05:54 #

    I learn a lot just by reading these comments, thanks Eliott and thanks the ETT Team.

    • 1stTrustee | February 12, 2013 at 07:15 #

      I’m glad you are learning from the comments. I’ve been working hard to promote thoughtful comments from people on this site. The goal is to add to the conversation, not create more noise. There is a lot of noise and nonsense out that serves no purpose other than to promote others emotion masturbation.

  3. G. Brailey | February 10, 2013 at 10:59 #

    I’m wondering if Mr. Darner read this blog post?

    • 1stTrustee | February 10, 2013 at 11:57 #

      Who is Mr. Darner? Or are you referring to Dorner, the ex L.A. Cop? If so, he doesn’t have to read this. He’s an exemplar of it on an extreme level!

      • G. Brailey | February 10, 2013 at 17:43 #

        Yes indeed (spelling error). Didn’t look too much into it but It seems he has surely taken the offensive position.

        • 1stTrustee | February 10, 2013 at 17:54 #

          Yes. I just found out that the cops are threatening felony charges for anyone supporting him. That’s funny. I’d like to see them make those charges (or lack there of) stick. If I found out someone is has been charged, I’ll hunt them down and help them smash any ridiculous charge. If anyone hears of a situation, send the people my info.

  4. G. Brailey | February 9, 2013 at 20:27 #

    YES…Time to get out of karate-kid stance and kick these fake enteties an their frontmen in the face!

  5. Eliott | February 7, 2013 at 01:59 #

    Most of us are taught, from the time we arrive, to be “passive” yet not “aggressive.” A combination of the two can come off as a bluff at best. We are told to turn the proverbial “cheek.” Wherein many of us are so bloody from the continuous blows we can barely see. We get used to the pain. For those of us who are believers we say it’s “gods plan.” For others we medicate, in some form or fashion to cope, be it the game Monday night or Sunday afternoon or the drink, or some other means of handling the pain.

    But, with the tools and information we have at our disposal now, we have the ability to take the higher ground. We can realize that our perspective is the reason we are in this state. But the moment we realize we are the ones in control, our remedy begins to become self evident,”there is no spoon” -The Matrix

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